I had to change the way I felt about myself and the way I felt about others simultaneously.
I think there are a lot of reasons why this is true. First, we all have internal conversations; we’ve all got lots of voices in our heads. And those voices usually represent real people. So self-care is almost like taking care of a whole bunch of people anyway.
Also, I just think it’s easier to learn to “be kind” than it is to learn to “be kind to others” or to “be kind to myself.” It’s easier to live out kindness as a principle to be applied to everyone.
I wonder, too, if we all just project SO MUCH that it’s impossible to end up treating others any differently than we treat ourselves.