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April, 2022  It’s easy to mistake envy for attraction

Oct, 2021  I was always the most controlling when I was pursuing what I didn’t really want

Sept, 2021  The real reason I got vaccinated

August, 2021  The Bridge
August, 2021  I learned something shocking today about breaking bad habits

July, 2021  If you focus on feeling better, you will never feel better.
July, 2021  The six words that will change your life

June, 2021  What money can do and what it can’t
June, 2021  You have to leave before you are ready.

May, 2021  Why I Recommend Everyone Own a Globally Diversified Stock Portfolio
May, 2021  If you are not willing to fake it ’til you make it, then you are not willing to make it at all.

April, 2021  Why you should never compromise a boundary
April, 2021  What people get wrong about boundaries

March, 2021  No one can tell you what someone else said. They can only tell you what they heard.

February, 2021  I’m a little tired of getting so angry about things that never happened.

January, 2021  To the Moon, Gamespot. To the Moon.
January, 2021  The Resentment Spiral: Why Setting Boundaries is the Most Unselfish Thing You Can Do
January, 2021  You are Not Your Ego: The Truth about Self-Sabotage
January, 2021  Powerlessness Corrupts

December, 2020  Your abusive behavior causes your depression, not the other way around.
December, 2020  How do I know if an apology is genuine?
December, 2020  Follow your dreams! (If only it were that easy…)

November, 2020  When cutting people out of your life doesn’t work, try this instead.
November, 2020  I couldn’t love myself without loving others, and I couldn’t love others without loving myself.
November, 2020  Why setting good boundaries and going after what you really want go hand in hand.
November, 2020  Depression: the most common symptom of both narcissism and codependence.
November, 2020  If you want to heal, you must increase your tolerance for other people’s pain.

October, 2020  The Truth About Saying No
October, 2020  How to deal with people forcing you to take sides

September, 2020  How to tell the difference between remorse and compassion.
September, 2020  How to start healing a sick family.
September, 2020  How Sickness Gets Passed Down Through the Generations
September, 2020  Why you’ve got to stop chopping up your day with the things you “should” do
September, 2020  Self-help is mostly not helpful, but here are the six self-help habits that actually worked for me.

August, 2020  How suffering ended.
August, 2020  How you can become abusive without realizing it.

July, 2020  Inter-Generational Sickness and Health: My Two Grandfathers
July, 2020  One of the kindest things my mother ever said to me
July, 2020  My Last Post on COVID-19

June, 2020  Celebrating Small Victories (Again!)

May, 2020  I was wrong about social media activism.
May, 2020  The Terror of Losing
May, 2020  You Must Exercise Power in Order to Have Power
May, 2020  The problem with not knowing your own values
May, 2020  Five-year plans are bullshit
May, 2020  Just Let It Die.

April, 2020  83 Rules to Live by
April, 2020  Why You Must Have Compassion on Your 12,000 Year-Old Brain
April, 2020  The Coronavirus, Part 2
April, 2020  Even being temporarily exposed to a fixed mindset is harmful.
April, 2020  How to Deal with Being “Stuck Together”
April, 2020  The dark side of empathy and compromise
April, 2020  Why You Should Stop Labeling People
April, 2020  You don’t need to resolve everything.

March, 2020  My body’s rhythm is the exact opposite of a nine to five job.
March, 2020  Five tricks to help you stop wasting money
March, 2020  When you try to control or manipulate someone else, you give them power over you.
March, 2020  Even psychopaths can change their brain structure, and so can you.
March, 2020  We don’t remember things the way they actually happened
March, 2020  Entitlement is not, “I deserve to have it easy.” Entitlement is, “My life was so hard, and SOMEBODY OWES ME!”
March, 2020  Abusive relationships are usually incredibly good at first.
March, 2020  The four spending mistakes people make that actually matter
March, 2020  Blame is Never Necessary
March, 2020  Is he really looking for advice, or is he just looking for an ally in a conflict I should probably stay out of?
March, 2020  What the heck is a mutual fund, really?
March, 2020  How to Have Endless Emotional Energy
March, 2020  How much it “should” cost doesn’t matter
March, 2020  Financial Street Smarts
March, 2020  How to defeat procrastination
March, 2020  Divorce is the biggest financial catastrophe
March, 2020  The Truth About Taking Responsibility
March, 2020  What we lose in a monetary system
March, 2020  7 situations where you really should spend money
March, 2020  How to be miserable (the truth will surprise you)
March, 2020  The truth about personal finance
March, 2020  You have to be wrong before you can be right. So wrong fast, wrong hard and wrong smart.
March, 2020  Saving is Generosity
March, 2020  Why do we “should” all over ourselves?
March, 2020  Should I ever buy a new car?
March, 2020  How to transform you worst, pettiest impulses into greatness (pt. 2)
March, 2020  Personal finance for millennials, in 2 minutes or less.
March, 2020  How to Make Better Decisions
March, 2020  Don’t fall in love when looking for a home.
March, 2020  Do you treat those closest to you the worst? Here’s why.
March, 2020  Investing, in 3 minutes or less.
March, 2020  Never Take Sides in Other People’s Conflicts
March, 2020  Should I invest in an IRA or a CD?
March, 2020  Should I buy a house or rent?
March, 2020  Every emotion has a rhythm to it. And you can interrupt the emotion by interrupting the rhythm.
March, 2020  Coronavirus

February, 2020  The Six Rules
February, 2020  Good market returns and a good economy–am I worried about a crash?

January, 2020  My “Godfather” speech to my younger self
January, 2020  No one will care which college you went to
January, 2020  Sometimes the “Secret to Success” is just to Survive.

December, 2019  You have to be wrong before you can be right.
December, 2019  What do your family stories about money tell you?

November, 2019  How Leaders Set Boundaries
November, 2019  Yes is easy. No is hard. But maybe will kill you.
November, 2019  The one showing symptoms is not the one who is sick
November, 2019  You don’t owe anyone an explanation

October, 2019  How to achieve freedom and clarity.
October, 2019  The new Joker movie is trash.
October, 2019  If “positive thinking” is actually making your depression worse, try this instead
October, 2019  If you’re trying to prove a point, you’re on the wrong path.
October, 2019  You are the average of the five people you spend the most emotional energy on.

September, 2019  Go after what you REALLY want
September, 2019  You cannot love others unless you go after what you really want. And you can’t get what you really want without loving others.
September, 2019  The most insidious addiction: being addicted to feeling special or important instead of feeling loved.
September, 2019  Four reasons you should celebrate your friend’s success, even if you have to fake it. (And even if they don’t support you.)

August, 2019  The 10 things I would say to my 21 year-old self.
August, 2019  Feeling stuck? Feeling lost? No purpose? Unmotivated? Here is why you need to just try some stuff.
August, 2019  Abusers always call you selfish

July, 2019  A comeback is not a go back.
July, 2019  Do you procrastinate most on the things you care most about?
July, 2019  I just did another funeral.
July, 2019  If you want to say no, that’s a good enough reason to say no.

June, 2019  Why do victims make excuses for their abusers? Why do abusers blame and condemn their victims?
June, 2019  Just because someone else desperately wants something, doesn’t mean you should want it.
June, 2019  Take Care of Yourself

May, 2019  Blaming and Complaining
May, 2019  Why do I have my best ideas when I leave town to go on vacation?
May, 2019  How I stopped lying to myself about who I really wanted to be.

April, 2019  How to transform your worst, pettiest impulses into greatness
April, 2019  How to be miserable at any income level
April, 2019  Yes, you have to fake it til you make it.
April, 2019  Depression Survival Guide

March, 2019  “I’m so tired of men. I’m I’m tired of them looking at me like I’m their little trophy, but that I’m broken, and they are going to glue me back together with their unsupported opinions.”
March, 2019  What’s even worse than a toxic person? A “friend” that supports you one day and undermines you the next.
March, 2019  Why are we so bad at predicting what will make us happy?
March, 2019  But HOW do you “go where you’re celebrated?”
March, 2019  What is Money?
March, 2019  OK, so how do I figure out what I REALLY want?
March, 2019  The McDonald’s Problem (Or: Why you are morally obligated to go after what you really want.)

February, 2019  Even the wrong decision is better than worrying.
February, 2019  Any time you tell your own story, you are helping someone else heal.
February, 2019  Focusing on winning is a sure-fire way to lose
February, 2019  It is a Terrible Curse to be Right
February, 2019  Take more vacations!
February, 2019  Money is not a reward for tolerating stress, pain or hard work. Money is what other people give you to remove THEIR stress, pain and hard work.

January, 2019  There is always a better solution than lying.
January, 2019  I can establish boundaries with my own thoughts. I can demand consent from my own mindset.
January, 2019  Jack Bogle, Rest in Peace
January, 2019  Don’t take sides.
January, 2019  Your social circle now won’t be your social circle forever.
January, 2019  If you know you need to work on it, that proves you are already working on it.

December, 2018  How to change your own toxic behavior in one easy step.
December, 2018  Anxiety, anger and even depression are all good (in small doses.)
December, 2018  Do you struggle with anger? Does it feel almost like an addiction?
December, 2018  Since we’ve all got addictions, maybe the best plan is just to choose a cheap one.
December, 2018  Everyone can do something about isolation

November, 2018  Yes, money solves problems. No, money does not make you happy.
November, 2018  The only real progress is slow progress.
November, 2018  Am I the Abuser?
November, 2018  Conflict is not abuse.

October, 2018  “Why do I only attract abusive men?”
October, 2018  If you’re hiding it, you’re focusing on it. And what you focus on grows.
October, 2018  Dancing reduces Alzheimer’s risk more than any other activity
October, 2018  You always need new friends. Your old friends may be holding you back without even realizing it.
October, 2018  A story is worth a thousand ideas
October, 2018  You can’t lose what you don’t have

September, 2018  How to Start Saving
September, 2018  How to like other people more
September, 2018  Actually, other people really can read your mind
September, 2018  Maybe you are making more progress than you think

August, 2018  Tell your story and let it go free
August, 2018  Inspirational quotes don’t cut it when someone cuts you off on the freeway
August, 2018  If you want to leave, that’s a good enough reason to leave.

July, 2018  How much does it REALLY cost? 5 ways to avoid wasting money
July, 2018  Overcoming Mental Illness

June, 2018  How to get all the voices in your head to agree
June, 2018  Six tip-offs that you don’t really need to buy that

May, 2018  You can train your mind just like you can train your body.
May, 2018  How to become who you always were
May, 2018  Self-Sabotage and the 50,000 Year-Old Brain