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How to transform your worst, pettiest impulses into greatness
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January, 2021 The Resentment Spiral
January, 2021 You are Not Your Ego: The Truth about Self-Sabotage
January, 2021 Powerlessness Corrupts
December, 2020 Your abusive behavior causes your depression, not the other way around.
December, 2020 How do I know if an apology is genuine?
December, 2020 Follow your dreams! (If only it were that easy…)
November, 2020 When cutting people out of your life doesn’t work, try this instead.
November, 2020 I couldn’t love myself without loving others, and I couldn’t love others without loving myself.
November, 2020 Why setting good boundaries and going after what you really want go hand in hand.
November, 2020 Depression: the most common symptom of both narcissism and codependence.
November, 2020 If you want to heal, you must increase your tolerance for other people’s pain.
October, 2020 The Truth About Saying No
October, 2020 How to deal with people forcing you to take sides
September, 2020 How to tell the difference between remorse and compassion.
September, 2020 How to start healing a sick family.
September, 2020 How Sickness Gets Passed Down Through the Generations
September, 2020 Why you’ve got to stop chopping up your day with the things you “should” do
September, 2020 Self-help is mostly not helpful, but here are the six self-help habits that actually worked for me.
August, 2020 How suffering ended.
August, 2020 How you can become abusive without realizing it.
July, 2020 Inter-Generational Sickness and Health: My Two Grandfathers
July, 2020 One of the kindest things my mother ever said to me
July, 2020 My Last Post on COVID-19
June, 2020 Celebrating Small Victories (Again!)
May, 2020 I was wrong about social media activism.
May, 2020 The Terror of Losing
May, 2020 You Must Exercise Power in Order to Have Power
May, 2020 The problem with not knowing your own values
May, 2020 Five-year plans are bullshit
May, 2020 Just Let It Die.
April, 2020 83 Rules to Live by
April, 2020 Why You Must Have Compassion on Your 12,000 Year-Old Brain
April, 2020 The Coronavirus, Part 2
April, 2020 Even being temporarily exposed to a fixed mindset is harmful.
April, 2020 How to Deal with Being “Stuck Together”
April, 2020 The dark side of empathy and compromise
April, 2020 Why You Should Stop Labeling People
April, 2020 You don’t need to resolve everything.
March, 2020 My body’s rhythm is the exact opposite of a nine to five job.
March, 2020 Five tricks to help you stop wasting money
March, 2020 When you try to control or manipulate someone else, you give them power over you.
March, 2020 Even psychopaths can change their brain structure, and so can you.
March, 2020 We don’t remember things the way they actually happened
March, 2020 Entitlement is not, “I deserve to have it easy.” Entitlement is, “My life was so hard, and SOMEBODY OWES ME!”
March, 2020 Abusive relationships are usually incredibly good at first.
March, 2020 The four spending mistakes people make that actually matter
March, 2020 Blame is Never Necessary
March, 2020 Is he really looking for advice, or is he just looking for an ally in a conflict I should probably stay out of?
March, 2020 What the heck is a mutual fund, really?
March, 2020 How to Have Endless Emotional Energy
March, 2020 How much it “should” cost doesn’t matter
March, 2020 Financial Street Smarts
March, 2020 How to defeat procrastination
March, 2020 Divorce is the biggest financial catastrophe
March, 2020 The Truth About Taking Responsibility
March, 2020 What we lose in a monetary system
March, 2020 7 situations where you really should spend money
March, 2020 How to be miserable (the truth will surprise you)
March, 2020 The truth about personal finance
March, 2020 You have to be wrong before you can be right. So wrong fast, wrong hard and wrong smart.
March, 2020 Saving is Generosity
March, 2020 Why do we “should” all over ourselves?
March, 2020 Should I ever buy a new car?
March, 2020 How to transform you worst, pettiest impulses into greatness (pt. 2)
March, 2020 Personal finance for millennials, in 2 minutes or less.
March, 2020 How to Make Better Decisions
March, 2020 Don’t fall in love when looking for a home.
March, 2020 Do you treat those closest to you the worst? Here’s why.
March, 2020 Investing, in 3 minutes or less.
March, 2020 Never Take Sides in Other People’s Conflicts
March, 2020 Should I invest in an IRA or a CD?
March, 2020 Should I buy a house or rent?
March, 2020 Every emotion has a rhythm to it. And you can interrupt the emotion by interrupting the rhythm.
March, 2020 Coronavirus
February, 2020 The Six Rules
February, 2020 Good market returns and a good economy–am I worried about a crash?
January, 2020 My “Godfather” speech to my younger self
January, 2020 No one will care which college you went to
January, 2020 Sometimes the “Secret to Success” is just to Survive.
December, 2019 You have to be wrong before you can be right.
December, 2019 What do your family stories about money tell you?
November, 2019 How Leaders Set Boundaries
November, 2019 Yes is easy. No is hard. But maybe will kill you.
November, 2019 The one showing symptoms is not the one who is sick
November, 2019 You don’t owe anyone an explanation
October, 2019 How to achieve freedom and clarity.
October, 2019 The new Joker movie is trash.
October, 2019 If “positive thinking” is actually making your depression worse, try this instead
October, 2019 If you’re trying to prove a point, you’re on the wrong path.
October, 2019 You are the average of the five people you spend the most emotional energy on.
September, 2019 Go after what you REALLY want
September, 2019 You cannot love others unless you go after what you really want. And you can’t get what you really want without loving others.
September, 2019 The most insidious addiction: being addicted to feeling special or important instead of feeling loved.
September, 2019 Four reasons you should celebrate your friend’s success, even if you have to fake it. (And even if they don’t support you.)
August, 2019 The 10 things I would say to my 21 year-old self.
August, 2019 Feeling stuck? Feeling lost? No purpose? Unmotivated? Here is why you need to just try some stuff.
August, 2019 Abusers always call you selfish
July, 2019 A comeback is not a go back.
July, 2019 Do you procrastinate most on the things you care most about?
July, 2019 I just did another funeral.
July, 2019 If you want to say no, that’s a good enough reason to say no.
June, 2019 Why do victims make excuses for their abusers? Why do abusers blame and condemn their victims?
June, 2019 Just because someone else desperately wants something, doesn’t mean you should want it.
June, 2019 Take Care of Yourself
May, 2019 Blaming and Complaining
May, 2019 Why do I have my best ideas when I leave town to go on vacation?
May, 2019 How I stopped lying to myself about who I really wanted to be.
April, 2019 How to transform your worst, pettiest impulses into greatness
April, 2019 How to be miserable at any income level
April, 2019 Yes, you have to fake it til you make it.
April, 2019 Depression Survival Guide
March, 2019 “I’m so tired of men. I’m I’m tired of them looking at me like I’m their little trophy, but that I’m broken, and they are going to glue me back together with their unsupported opinions.”
March, 2019 What’s even worse than a toxic person? A “friend” that supports you one day and undermines you the next.
March, 2019 Why are we so bad at predicting what will make us happy?
March, 2019 But HOW do you “go where you’re celebrated?”
March, 2019 What is Money?
March, 2019 OK, so how do I figure out what I REALLY want?
March, 2019 The McDonald’s Problem (Or: Why you are morally obligated to go after what you really want.)
February, 2019 Even the wrong decision is better than worrying.
February, 2019 Any time you tell your own story, you are helping someone else heal.
February, 2019 Focusing on winning is a sure-fire way to lose
February, 2019 It is a Terrible Curse to be Right
February, 2019 Take more vacations!
February, 2019 Money is not a reward for tolerating stress, pain or hard work. Money is what other people give you to remove THEIR stress, pain and hard work.
January, 2019 There is always a better solution than lying.
January, 2019 I can establish boundaries with my own thoughts. I can demand consent from my own mindset.
January, 2019 Jack Bogle, Rest in Peace
January, 2019 Don’t take sides.
January, 2019 Your social circle now won’t be your social circle forever.
January, 2019 If you know you need to work on it, that proves you are already working on it.
December, 2018 How to change your own toxic behavior in one easy step.
December, 2018 Anxiety, anger and even depression are all good (in small doses.)
December, 2018 Do you struggle with anger? Does it feel almost like an addiction?
December, 2018 Since we’ve all got addictions, maybe the best plan is just to choose a cheap one.
December, 2018 Everyone can do something about isolation
November, 2018 Yes, money solves problems. No, money does not make you happy.
November, 2018 The only real progress is slow progress.
November, 2018 Am I the Abuser?
November, 2018 Conflict is not abuse.
October, 2018 “Why do I only attract abusive men?”
October, 2018 If you’re hiding it, you’re focusing on it. And what you focus on grows.
October, 2018 Dancing reduces Alzheimer’s risk more than any other activity
October, 2018 You always need new friends. Your old friends may be holding you back without even realizing it.
October, 2018 A story is worth a thousand ideas
October, 2018 You can’t lose what you don’t have
September, 2018 How to Start Saving
September, 2018 How to like other people more
September, 2018 Actually, other people really can read your mind
September, 2018 Maybe you are making more progress than you think
August, 2018 Tell your story and let it go free
August, 2018 Inspirational quotes don’t cut it when someone cuts you off on the freeway
August, 2018 If you want to leave, that’s a good enough reason to leave.
July, 2018 How much does it REALLY cost? 5 ways to avoid wasting money
July, 2018 Overcoming Mental Illness
June, 2018 How to get all the voices in your head to agree
June, 2018 Six tip-offs that you don’t really need to buy that
May, 2018 You can train your mind just like you can train your body.
May, 2018 How to become who you always were
May, 2018 Self-Sabotage and the 50,000 Year-Old Brain
